Tuesday, September 02, 2014

OotD: Birthday Madness

Its my birthday!

I am 24 years old, so I put on a neon pink dress, petticoat, backcombed my hair to hell and channeled a gender bent Joker from Batman.


Pink Ice Cream Dress ~ SimplyBe
Mint Petticoat ~ Domino Dollhouse
Lace Cuffed Bike Shorts ~ Allihalla
Graffitti Socks ~ ASOS
Dolly Shoes ~ Demonia

Pierrot Necklace ~ Tatty Devine


I had a nice day today, it was very low key and relaxing. I had a picnic in the park with my mum and the dogs (including our new arrival!), went shopping and we're having a Chinese takeaway tonight. Not bad, not bad. I'm not really a party or going out type, personally as I don't drink and my anxiety makes large groups of people a little uncomfortable.


 One of my birthday presents was some lovely acrylic drawers from MUJI, I spent most of yesterday organising all of my make-up in them. This inspired me to put some slap on for the first time in so long, I am feeling green eyeshadow though with how long my green fringe is my eyes did disappear a little.

 
I've only had this dress for what feels like years, yet this is its blog debut. It is of course on of the blogger designed dresses for SimplyBe by the amazing Lauren over at Pocket Rocket Fashion, who was one of the first blogs I ever read and she inspired me to start this blog. 



My purple lipstick, green eyeshadow and hair made me think of the Joker, while my dress and shoes made think doll. So thus I did a lot of silly faces and poses because I may be 24, but I will still pretend to be a demonic doll/evil clown at the drop of a hat.




Does any remember my ootds from way back in 2011/12? I'm having hair flashbacks!

Yes, backcombing is back in my life. I'm pretty pleased with it, I'm not usually much of a hair styler, especially seeing as I am just waiting till my hair is long enough to put into pigtails or braids.




I would apologise for the amount of pictures, but I am into myself today and vanity should be celebrated. Love yourselves, ladies, gents and distinguished readers!

My mother is taking me to IKEA tomorrow and I'm getting a full length mirror, this may mean far more (very lazy) posts as I won't have to badger any of my family to take my pictures. Or at least a lot more selfies!
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Friday, August 22, 2014

Media Responsibility & The Failure of Mental Healthcare

Content Warning: discussion of death, suicide, depression, mental health issues, including my own struggles in case you're someone I know in real life


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During the last Easter break this year, my former jewellery tutor, Rowena Golton died, I was beyond shocked as I had seen her less than a fortnight earlier. I knew she was depressed and had been out of sorts for quite a while, so naturally you wonder how someone so young died, but I thought it didn't matter exactly how we lost her, but that we honoured her memory & her life. 

Then I saw a Daily Mail article on my facebook feed that shocked me to my core, the headline of said article revealed exactly the method she used to kill herself. I was paralysed, but I read the article, which described in further detail this wonderful, bright, giving woman who put me on my path as a creative and how she died.

As my shock began to fade two things struck me:

Is it responsible for the media to report suicides in such graphic detail?

When the news of Robin Williams death broke it was less than a day before I heard how he had killed himself in such detail that it made me feel sick and dirty for knowing something so private. I didn't really consider the possible fallout of such widely spread knowledge until reading of Rowena's death. As someone who has been suicidal and suffers from suicidal ideation (thankfully far more under control as of late) it struck me that a suicidal or fragile person reading about details such as these could influence someone to copy the methods. I made a brief post on facebook to this effect and lovely Kathryn pointed out that the Samaritans' media guidlines for reporting suicide have facts that back up this thought. This aspect of the news has been examined far better than I could ever do here by Mary Hamilton, "Reporting Robin Williams’ suicide: how not to kill your readers".

Sensationalist journalism surrounds us, we can't move for reports about tragedies and drama, but in this case it could be resulting in further deaths and this sickens me.

How could the mental health services in this country fail so badly?

I'm sure the majority of people reading this who have tried to get help for mental health problems know the fear and anxiety when you get told how long you will have to wait. When I first decided I couldn't go on without help I was told 3-6 months was the average wait and I was not considered a priority because I didn't reveal my suicidal ideation to my GP, so it was likely to be on the longer side. Thankfully as my Dad was a doctor so I had health insurance, which meant I could see someone privately a lot quicker. This isn't an option for everyone.

The biggest thing I took from the article on Rowena's death is that the mental health services in this country failed her, sending her home when she needed help most of all. She couldn't wait months, she needed help and tried again and again to get it. I think her family are very brave for talking about this and pointing out the inadequacies of the NHS in this department.

BUT, I also think this shouldn't put anyone off asking for help, the healthcare system is lacking, but if you cannot cope and you need to talk to someone please go to your doctor. Don't suffer in silence. I hope this isn't too contradictory, but I don't want the fact that people were let down to stop people asking for treatment. I know a few people who would not be here today without therapy, medication and doctors.

Depression and suicidal thoughts can happen to anyone, whatever their circumstances and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. If you're suffering, I'm sending you all the love in the world, but please talk to someone, be it a friend, the Samaritans or a doctor, don't keep it all bottled inside.

Resources:

Mental Health:

MIND

0300 123 3393

Samaritans
www.samaritans.org

08457 90 90 90

Email: jo@samaritans.org

Write:  Freepost RSRB-KKBY-CYJK,
            Chris,
            PO Box 90 90,
            Stirling,
            FK8 2SA
Hearing Voices Network

0114 271 8210

SANELine

0845 767 8000

Papyrus: Preventing young suicide

0800 068 4141

For people in Northern Ireland

0808 808 8000

Depressionalliance
www.depressionalliance.org

No Panic
www.no-panic.co.uk

0808 808 0545

National Self Harm Network

0800 622 6000

SupportLine
http://www.supportline.org.uk/

01708 765200

info@supportline.org.uk

(Confidential emotional support for Children, Young People and Adults. Also keeps details of agencies, support groups and counsellors throughout the UK)

Addiction:

National Alcohol Hotline

0800 917 8282

NACOA (National Association for Children of Alcoholics)

0800 358 3456

Talk To Frank (Drug information & advice) (ENGLAND)

0800 77 66 00

Know The Score (Drug information & advice) (SCOTLAND) 
http://knowthescore.info/ 

0800 587 587 9

Dan 24/7 (Drug information & advice) (WALES)
http://www.dan247.org.uk/


0808 808 2234
Or text DAN to: 81066

Addiction NI (Drug information & advice) (Northern Ireland)
http://addictionni.com/

02890 664434

LGBTQIA:

Stonewall

08000 50 20 20

London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard

0207 837 7324

Age:

Childline

0800 1111


Age UK Advice Line
www.ageuk.org.uk
 
0800 169 6565

The Silver Line (Free information, friendship and advice to older people.)

http://www.thesilverline.org.uk/

0800 4 70 80 90

Abuse:

Refuge

0808 2000 247

Rape and Abuse Line
0808 8000 123 (Answered by Female Support Workers) 
0808 8000 122 (Answered by Male Support Workers)

Eating Disorders:

Beat Eating Disorders

Helpline: 0845 634 1414

Youthline: 0845 634 7650

Housing and Homelessness:

0808 800 4444

Bereavement:

Cruse Bereavement Care

Child Death Hepline

0800 282 986

If there are any other resources, that you would recommend please comment and I will add them to the list. Hope you're all safe.

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

ModCloth Uniquely You Polyvore Challenge!

I was contacted last week by a lovely lady named Amy at Modcloth, about a weekly polyvore storyboard challenge. As I've been pretty lax in the blogging stakes as of late, I figured why not, plus I had forgotten how much I love playing with polyvore!

Each week a selection of bloggers is given a dress to style showing our individual style using the lovely accessories from ModCloth's site. The first dress given was the Vivacious and Vibrant Dress in Noir, which I adore! Thankfully it is available in plus sizes too. Come on black and white with those cute shoulder details, this one is right up my street. Though I was initially thinking of going full goth I was caught by some of the gorgeous, whimisical Alice in Wonderland inspired pieces in ModCloth's range.



Alice in ModCloth





The dress could be read as very formal and I wanted to take it in a different direction, to make a whimsical, doll-like feel to the look. As soon as I saw these cute, bow false lashes I knew I had to pick out the red with something else and the backpack was too adorably Alice for me not to add it. I've always loved Alice in Wonderland, the books, films, cartoons and this was my inspiration for this board. I think I was a little literal, but hey, there is a place and time for subtlety, but it is not when you're playing dress up!

How would you style this dress?

Saturday, June 07, 2014

OotD: SeaPunk



Velour High Neck Check Dress ~ SimplyBe via blog sale
Crochet Socks ~ ASOS
Spiked Headband ~ ASOS
Black & White Platform Mary Janes ~ Demonia
"I'd Rather Drown" Necklace ~ Earl Foolish
Lipstick ~ Hipster Ariel by Geek Chic Cosmetics





























It was hot on whatever day we took these, so that's my reasoning for my squinty, pinched expressions and general grumpy-looking-ness.



I bought this in a blog sale from the lovely Mhaira of Lilybobombs! I've been debating on this ever since it came out, so glad I got it for a great price, though its such a lovely dress I probably wouldn't be too mad paying full price. It was way too warm for the day I chose to wear it, but when its cooler, I can see myself wearing it a lot.


Last OotD I said I wanted to take some more unflattering shots, well here's some sideways action as well as some big fat arms and stomach.




I've been looking for some cute Mary Janes for so long. I bought a incredibly similar pair from TUK, but they were just too small. As a size 9, it is hard to find shoes for my aesthetic, I'd never checked Demonia before despite seeing them around in alternative fashion circles. Now I want all of them! These shoes are wonderfully comfortable, so much that these might be slightly too big for my fat feet. They are so adorable they might as well be dolly shoes.


I was feeling very cute, this was one of those outfits that kind of sprung out of my mind as soon as I saw the dress. I am really into shades of blue at the moment, probably because I spend so much time on tumblr and follow many mermaid obsessed people. Also, check out this necklace, perfection!



Thursday, May 29, 2014

OotD: Season of the Sea Witch

Its been awhile, friends!

I had my university results today for my last project of the year, so I am free and easy. Hopefully I'll be posting much more. Unfortunately the year has been full of illness (physical and mental) as well as a boat load of university work, so I've not been up for much dressing up.


Polka Dot Crop Top ~ Primark via ASOS
Layered Witchy Skirt ~ Samya via House of Fraser
Monochrome Cardigan ~ Fashion World (previously given to review)
Teeth Necklace ~ Earl Foolish

Lure Earring ~ Earl Foolish
White Crochet Socks ~ ASOS
Black Patent Flatforms ~ Dorothy Perkins
Lipgloss ~ 'Red Wedding' by Shiro Cosmetics



My new fashion obsession for this summer is becoming even more of a witch bitch. Floaty black layers, hitchy hems, sheer and of course, crop tops! This skirt is perfection to me, I adore the hem and it was only ten quid in the sale with a discount code, very nice.



I'm planning to start taking more pictures from "unusual" angles, like back pictures, from the side of sitting down. I find that often I only post pictures from "flattering" front on, but I want to experiment with showing my body from all angles, so say hi to my flat butt.



 Who loves my necklace and earring? I DO. I am a little obsessed with the bits that I picked up from Earl Foolish. Not only are they gorgeous, but each piece from the current Sinister Sirens collection has a gorgeous description and piece of fiction to go with them. If you love sirens, mermaids, creature of the deep and fantasy lore you have to give them a look.


It was hard even getting a decent picture of how beautiful this earring is, the iridescence is just gorgeous. I think I'll be doing a little review of the three pieces I bought and sitting on my hands so I don't buy even more.

 

Customary ugly picture because I am silly. Also, I am growing out my hair and its currently stuck at mad scientist levels of fluff.

How are you all, my lovely readers?

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Monochromatic Minimilism Vs Pastel Puke

ASOS Curve Shadow Floral Peg Leg Trousers ~ £22, SimplyBe Sleeveless Blazer ~ £45, Regal Rose Freya Raven Skull Necklace ~ £11, New Look Monochrome Cut Out Boots ~ £29.99, SimplyBe Waffle Cocoon Top ~ £28, Maria Francesca Pepe Silver Spike Hoop Earrings ~ £27, SimplyBe Organza Short Sleeve Shirt ~ £40.

Crisp, sharp, pulled together.

Not words I associate with myself, but I find the aesthetic rather beautiful.

ASOS Balloon Animal Cropped Shirt ~ £10.50 (On Sale!), Regal Rose Rose Quartz Unicorn Horn Necklace ~ £32, New Look Mint Raglan Jumper ~ £22.99, Regal Rose Amethyst Necklace ~ £16, ASOS Pom Pom Headband ~ £10, Modern Girl Blitz "Not Your Doll" Pin ~ $2, Modern Girl Blitz Ghost World "Everyone's Too Stupid" Pocket Mirror ~ $5, Shelly's London Mint Blue Lace Up Boots ~ £60, Black Heart Creatives Morrissey Cupcake Necklace ~ £13.50, New Look Inspire High Waisted Shorts ~ £19.99, Boohoo Plus Floral Bodycon Dress ~ £18, cryybaby Feminist Brooch ~ £3.

Bonkers, brash and b-b-bold!

In your face, but oh so sweet about it. I'm thinking of adding a little more pastel to my goth.

Which style board are you drawn too?

Do you prefer candy colours or more simple shades?

Sunday, March 16, 2014

OotD: This Is My Person Suit



Denim Dress ~ ASOS Curve
Sheer Black & Tartan Shirt ~ George at Asda

Black Leggings ~ Evans
Creepers ~ Underground UK


The title is a lie, I actually wore this last week and forgot I took pictures. Consummate professional me.

I wore this to go the Manchester Craft & Design Centre with a friend. We were walking past Affleck's Palace and I said to her "Oh its full of goth tat in there.... Which kind of desrcibes my style, though I feel pretty normal and incognito today." My friend looked at me and said "No."

So yes, this minus the lipstick which was pink during the day, is what I think a passing as not an example of gothic tat style. I hope someone gets my title reference, it is pretty perfect.


I have far too many denim dresses, but I couldn't resist this one, the buttons and shape are just lovely. I can imagine wearing this in the summer without leggings or top underneath, oh I am looking forward to that so very much!

Warning about this dress for those big chests, you will need to size up. The denim doesn't have a huge amount of stretch and isn't made for a top heavy person it seems.








As always a lovely outtake of me being silly below!


Hope you're all having a lovely time and having fun in the sun that is peeking through the clouds now again this almost Spring season.

What do you think of my toned down look? Do you ever try and blend in a little and does it ever work?

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